Although revenge is rarely healthy, you are just a human being and it is perfectly natural if you have ever asked yourself how to hurt a narcissistic man. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist or if you’ve ever fallen for a narcissist, you probably wondered what you could do to make him pay for all the pain he has caused you and everything else he has done to you.
Many people will tell you that the best way to get over a narcissist is to walk away from him and never look back (and they wouldn’t be wrong) but you have this uncontrollable urge to make him suffer just a little bit. Although every person is different, all narcissists have some common vulnerabilities and here are 6 ways to find their weak spots.
1. Figure him out
If you really want to seek revenge on your narcissistic boyfriend, firstly you have to get inside of his head. I know this is the guy you had your future planned with and that you won’t want him to be different but if you want to hurt him effectively, you have to accept some things.
Firstly, you have to stop idealizing him and see him for who he really is. You need to accept that his personality is narcissistic and that he is toxic for you and that he will always be like this. If you want to seek revenge because you secretly hope that it will make him understand what he’s losing and that it will make him understand that he loves you, I have to tell you to call it quits right from the start because this can be very dangerous for you. But if you truly want to hurt him, you need to get inside of his head.
You need to think of his vulnerabilities and weaknesses, about the things that elevate him and about those which bring him down. Of course, you need to use all of this against him and to your own advantage. Although this is one of the hardest things to do, you need to find a way to shut down all of the emotions you have for him and you need to let your reason be your only guide. If you really want to hurt him, there is no place for your conscience or guilt here. You need to be sure that this is exactly what you want to do and if it is, you need to shut down any remorse you might have regarding this revenge. Just remember that this man has hurt you many times and every sign of regret will instantly vanish.