4. Trusting myself
One of a narcissist’s ways to have power over his victim is to make you doubt your own sanity. He will gaslight you, make you question your every move and make you wonder if your perception of reality is indeed true.
So when I decided it was time to walk away from this man, I had to learn to trust myself again. At first, I was writing events and our dialogues down so he couldn’t later twist and change what really happened.
For a while, I kept telling myself that I wasn’t crazy and that I wasn’t imagining things. I had to convince myself that I knew how to express myself—he was just deliberately choosing to misinterpret my words, actions and feelings so he could manipulate me more easily.
5. Regaining control
Every narcissist’s ultimate and final intention is to have complete emotional and psychological control over their victim. And my narcissist was no different.
That is why I had to regain control over my life if I wanted to discard this manipulator. I knew I had to show him that I was in charge of myself and that he couldn’t do anything about it.
The truth is that it took me a long time before I really regained control but the point was to show him that he couldn’t affect me anymore. The point was to prove to him that he didn’t have any impact on me anymore.
That is exactly the way to hurt a narcissist and what makes him lose his interest in abusing you any further and that is the thing that chased my narcissist away.