Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship is hard. You become used to putting up with him loving himself and no one else. You get used to that kind of behavior and sadly, you don’t do anything about it. Not until things go too far and beyond repair.
You have some happy moments when he ‘forgets’ how much he loves himself but most of the remaining time, you feel like crap because he doesn’t give a damn about you.
The only thing that the two of you have in common is that you both love the same person.
Narcissistic relationships are like drugs. You get addicted. You know that you have security and that you are not alone. So, you stick around out of fear of being alone.
Narcissistic relationships are challenging. You are 100 percent positive that you are the creator of your own happiness. You are—but you can’t and you shouldn’t control every little aspect of life. It’s is not your job to make this crappy relationship work. You are not the only one in it—it takes two to tango.
Narcissistic relationships are humiliating. You are dating someone who thinks he is above others—someone who thinks he is worth much more than anybody else and that includes you, too.
Your only role in a narcissistic relationship is to feed your guy’s ego because it’s all about him and you come second to that—and you always will.
After that, you lose your self-respect and your self-worth and you bring emotional baggage into your next relationship. You bring your fears and your insecurities—all because of that narcissistic D-bag.
When you finally find the courage to break the chains of your narcissistic relationship, you stumble upon another obstacle. You meet a good guy who treats you the way you deserve but you feel way out of your comfort zone because up to this point nothing was about you—everything was about him.
Here are some of the things that can happen to you when you meet a good guy after a narcissistic relationship:
1. He knows there is more to you than meets the eye
This is a completely new and strange feeling. He is confident in you. Your last relationship made you doubt yourself and all the choices you make. But, now you’ve met a person who knows you can do anything that you set your mind to.
2. He wants you to trust him
He knows that you’ve been in a relationship where your voice hasn’t been heard. He knows that you are living with a fear of history repeating itself. That’s why he is patient with you.
Your last relationship was built on an unstable, trustless ground. You were the one to blame for all the problems you had. It’s not a surprise that you lost the ability to trust people—your ex made you believe that.
This new guy knows that and he is working his way up to proving himself trustworthy. And what’s more important, he’s letting you learn to trust yourself again. Continue reading on next page…