- You’re amazing. (Seriously.You are.) So why are you any less confident than that woman you’re girl-crushing on all over the place?
The answer: She does a few things you don’t do. But with some mindful cultivation, you can change that. Here are some things a confident woman does (so you can make sure you’re doing them too).
1. She acts like Benjamin Disraeli
Bono wrote for Time Magazine, “It has been said that after meeting with the great British Prime Minister William Ewart Gladstone, you left feeling he was the smartest person in the world, but after meeting with his rival Benjamin Disraeli, you left thinking you were the smartest person.” A confident women is like Benjamin Disraeli. She doesn’t need people to think she’s amazing (knowing in her own heart she’s amazing is enough). Her goal is to help others feel amazing.
2. She only says “yes” if she really wants to
If she doesn’t want to go out for drinks (because her favorite jammies and Colin Firth are calling) she’s not worried her friends will think she’s lame or that they won’t ask her next time. Confident women aren’t people pleasers by any stretch of the imagination. She knows her own desires and limitations and lets her outcome rest on those instead. Confident women aren’t afraid to use the word “no.”
3. She doesn’t spend her spare time on Pinterest
When you get sucked into Pinterest picture-perfect outfits and Facebook’s endless stream of your friends’ perfect lives, it’s easy to use social media as a rubric for your own life. A confident women shuns comparison. She doesn’t get freaked out when she’s the only one on Facebook who’s not in a relationship and she doesn’t think less of herself because her friend is a talented botanist. Continue…