Most of the time, we all know very well what is best for us. We know who the people are who deserve a place in our life and who are the ones we need to kick out of it. We know who the people are who deserve our love and attention and who are the ones we should turn our backs on.
And this is the case with all relationships in your life. It’s like this when it comes to your family, your friends and especially when it comes to your romantic relationships. You might lie to yourself that some guy will change or that you are misinterpreting his behavior but deep down, you know very well that none of it is true. Deep down, you know when it’s time to say goodbye but that is something you refuse to accept and do.
But let me tell you one thing: there is nothing wrong with that and this is something completely natural. When you’ve given a lot to someone and when you’ve invested a lot in a certain relationship, it is perfectly natural for you to hold on to it. It is perfectly normal that you can’t just walk away from someone you care for deeply.
The only thing you want is to be happy with this guy. You want your relationship to work at any cost and you are ready to do whatever it takes to make it happen. You feel like you don’t know what you would do without him in your life and you are scared to be alone. Most of all, you feel that you would be throwing away all the energy, effort and time you’ve invested in this guy and in this relationship, if you walk away now. Besides, you are scared that you’ll regret leaving him. You are scared you’ll change your mind eventually and that you won’t have him to go back to when that happens.
Well, I am here to tell you that you are only scared of stepping out of your comfort zone. Despite the fact that you know that this man is not treating you right and that he never will, you prefer staying by his side, because you know him. Everything about him and about your relationship with him is familiar even though it is painful. And you are scared of the unknown. With time, you’ve got used to his bad treatment and you got used to this pain you are constantly feeling. All of this became a part of you and you are scared to leave it, because you think you are handling everything well. You don’t know what awaits you out there. Is it something better? Or will you face an even greater amount of pain?
Well, I am not going to lie to you. You can never know what is out there. You can never know if you’ll have moments of regret after you walk away from this man. But you need to be brave and strong enough to give yourself a chance to find out.
The only thing I can tell you is that you’ll be proud of yourself if you walk away from everything that makes you unhappy. I can tell you that you should never stay with someone who doesn’t treat you right because that is not what you deserve.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is never easy. And it will be painful.You will miss him and there will be moments when you’ll want to go back to him. There will be moments when you’ll only remember the good things and the beautiful memories, moments when you’ll feel you’d do anything just to hear his voice or to see his face. But all of it will go away and I need you to trust me on this one. Time does heal all wounds.
Sometimes, walking away from someone and saying your final goodbye is the only choice you have if you want to save yourself. Sometimes it is the only real option you have. Saying goodbye to people who hurt you is something you owe to yourself. It is one of the greatest acts of self-love and self-respect. And remember—nobody will give you the love and respect you deserve until you give it to yourself.